Be Honest with Yourself

  • basically, don't try to do something because it is what someone else is doing - try to find out what I'm about, and what I'm pulled towards
  • I should Do My Own Thinking while I'm at it, approaching it through thinking about my Interest Vectors
  • this ties into being authentic - no point in making things that someone, who doesn't care about myself, would like - I should Follow Genuine Interests
  • this also makes it so much easier to capitalise on the things I would do anyway
  • setting time for reflection makes it possible to learn things about myself, and that knowledge is important - it can guide what I choose and how I live my life (Reflective Practice as a part of Self-Cybernetics loop?)

In a class I took from William Glass he said "I don't write because I want to, I write because I have to." The ideal Forever Project is that sort of topic to you; like an itch that you must scratch. If there's no topic in your life like that, fine. Maybe you're not at a point where you're ready to take up a Forever Project. Go do other things until some topic rears up and smacks you on the nose.

The Forever Project

It's better to build something that's an expression of yourself, rather than something others think is smart.

Don't outsource your thinking

Don't confuse "doing a thing because I like it" with "doing a thing because I want to be seen as the sort of person who does such things"

100 Tips for a Better Life

Notice that the #1 regret was "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me." Perhaps the regret of working too hard was really just a symptom of this deeper regret.

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Almost everyone I've ever met would be well-served by spending more time thinking about what to focus on. It is much more important to work on the right thing than it is to work many hours. Most people waste most of their time on stuff that doesn't matter.

Alignment

In large measure becoming an artist consists of learning to accept yourself, which makes your work personal, and in following your own voice, which makes your work distinctive.

Art & Fear

The question I want you to ask yourself is, what did you want before other people got into your head about what you should want? What were you like? What were you drawn to, what did you like to do for fun?

— Introspect

  • Be Honest with Yourself, introspect, and find the things that you actually enjoy doing - instead of finding things that you "should" enjoy, or things that you "wished" you enjoy
  • this approach requires Being Honest with Yourself - otherwise the interest is not really genuine, and the whole thing might not work that well
  • I think the general conclusion would be to focus energy on finding things that I would want to do anyways, and then doubling down on them - which ties into Being Honest with Yourself
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